My mother asked me last night what was happening with my blog! Truth is, I’ve been writing… I just haven’t been posting. I think I’m sorry… anyway… I have new stuff, and if you’ll have me back, I promise you’ll enjoy them…

The new things I’m writing are not necessarily matters of the heart… they are just things I think we all need to hear now especially as they’ve been in my spirit for quite a while. I really hope you enjoy them… I’ve also been working on my writing as well so please let me know what you think! ENJOY!!


We’ve all been through it before… you meet someone, get to know them and soon after, life without them seems impossible… when you see them, your heart skips a beat… when they call your name you feel butterflies in your tummy… when they touch you the whole atmosphere changes to like zero degrees… even the mere smell of their perfume in a crowded room is enough to make you happy; when they’re there, its like no one and nothing else matters. And the only thing you can think of is how to make him happy and how to put a smile on their face… This is the kind that people would say “they have your mumu button”. I know you know what I mean!! Don’t pretend!

Unlike most people, it has never been easy for me to “let go” and “fall in love”. Half the people I know say I have trust issues and I need to let people in. But the truth is that isn’t the case. Of course I’m human and boy! do I have those emotions! I just believe that not every emotion has to be acted on.
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Take for instance; your little brother annoys you (like every sibling does), and not the regular kind of annoyance; the kind that you really just want to stab him. Imagine you’re having a particularly terrible day and he worsens it. Do you actually stab your sibling as a result of your anger? If you can curtail your anger in that, then I believe you can curtail other emotions and urges.

I’m not saying it’s easy. I’ve been “a victim” one too many times. Too many life decisions I wish I could “unmake” and change. Sometimes after liking a boy I actually ask myself “But what was wrong with you Freda?!” However, it is those mistakes that have made me wise enough to not repeat them.

You've gotta ask yourself....

You’ve gotta ask yourself….

I don’t normally put up relationship posts because I’m not so sure I’ve mastered the art yet but I’m putting this out there because this isn’t just a blog for you people to read and learn but it’s also my blog so I can read and remind myself what’s right and wrong. I’m putting this here so it will challenge me whenever I’m tempted to rate a guy based on his finely chiseled chin and build rather than what’s within.

My brother told me something his friend says. She says she cannot be with a man who cannot be PROPHET, KING & PRIEST of the home… because a relationship and indeed marriage is more than what car he drives and how fine he is… if he doesn’t push you to love God more, you have taken the first step towards destruction. A woman who cannot raise your children with God in their heart is a threat to all your generations to come. Too many young people getting into relationships for the wrong reasons and we need to set it right!

My mother has taught me to invest in myself and become what I expect to see in the man I want. You cannot expect a perfect “GOD FEARING” man when you are far from it. Some people are lucky like that but it’s rare. I like to say I’m building, investing and training ME before there is a WE. There are too many marital problems in our generation, not because the spouse changed but because someone overlooked what should have been a priority on their checklist. 2015-04-12 17.13.45

They may say you’re too choosy but the truth is quality attracts and desires quality. And it would be cheating for you to settle for less. Not every time joke and play… sometimes let’s learn something! Let’s have a stimulating conversation! Let’s grow together!



It’s okay to want more! Don’t compromise on the things that are “forever”. Westerners have made it seem like divorce is allowed but Biblically, it shouldn’t even be an option! So choose wisely!

A true relationship that has its foundation in God and is stimulating mentally is worth waiting for.

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