THIS IS THE THIRD PART OF THE “LOVE THYSELF” POSTS, TELLING YOU TO LOVE YOURSELF TO THE EXTENT ON IMPROVING ON YOU. I KNOW YOU’LL LOVE THIS ONE! BY BISHOP FRED ADDO!
“Let me start by thanking Okey and then Freda for their vital thoughts on self-value. It is on these ideals that all successes are built. You cannot compare a basketball player with a footballer; and if a footballer tries to be like a basketballer, he won’t last long in his own game, he will end up with a red card. The bottom line is that, there is more to you than others will have you believe, so you will do yourself good, not to try to be a star in someone else’s game.
However, I will like to add a simple thought, just to kinda balance the equation. In my few years on earth, I have found out that, the “BE YOURSELF” and “LOVE YOURSELF” philosophy, is used by many people as a mild but arrogant stance. My point is that being and loving yourself, should not stop you from being challenged by the good things in others. It can be an easy way out, to see excellence in other people and simply wave it away by saying, “I’m different”. So while we are not trying to be like other people, we must be willing to learn from them and sometimes push ourselves an extra mile, because sometimes, the only way to find out what you have inside, is to find admiration in what other people have outside.
A footballer can actually learn from the basketball player, not by putting his hand on the ball, but by being challenged by the amount of time the basketballer invests in his training; as well as his disciplined life and idiosyncrasy.
As a pastor, I’ve met many young people who have a hard time with every love relationship they go into. They tell me that what they need is someone that will love them for who they are. Then I chat with them to find out who they are and we both realize that half of who they are, they don’t approve of. Whatever happened to true friends who love you, but challenge you to be better?
The point is that, we must never be afraid to change, while appreciating who we are, we must also realize that we need other people’s excellence, challenge and even advice to stir us to becoming better. So love yourself enough to tell yourself the truth that you need to improve. Also, don’t simply settle for the fact that if others are good at something, therefore you’re not. From personal experience, 6 out of 10 times, what you admire in other people, are things you should have been doing but you put away for too long, that you’re not willing to take the challenge.
Since I’m a preacher, I’ll leave you with a scripture:
Prov 37:17 (Message version) – You use steel to sharpen steel, one friend sharpens another”
BISHOP FRED ADDO