I got a broadcast message(bc) from a friend (Okey Anyawu) today that went perfectly in line with a piece I had been working on… so i decided to share them both! Enjoy! 🙂 


I have seen way too many people feel frustrated because they do not have the kind of abilities that a friend, brother or colleague has. This isn’t healthy!


Some people set goals “I’d be the world’s number one” just so they can prove a point. This competitive spirit is killing so many emotionally. Some people compete in every area of life, not allowing themselves the room to be natural-to be themselves. Some say things like “I’d show you I can get the best boyfriend or Husband”.


Look don’t you get it? Everyone in the world is blessed differently in unique ways and there’s no blessing or ability that is bigger or better than another. All that matters is how you use your own giftens.


Freda Addo is a dear sister and beautiful friend. She has an ability to listen to practically any song ONE TIME and get all the lyrics! She can then sing that song on her own and won’t miss the lyrics. She surely has a magnetic memory. I can’t do that! Does that mean I should spend the rest of my life miserable? NO! There are things that I am blessed with that she isn’t blessed with! This is the simple reason why all of our body isn’t the eye! Imagine how horrific that will be. (Just see eyes everywhere, rolling. lol-disturbing).


Dear friends, focus on the things God has blessed you with. If you knew anything, you’d know that you have been made a success already! There’s no need to keep tabs on others. Just do what you have been born to do! Quit struggling and allow God’s grace. You are blessed in unique ways. …and God saw that all that He did was good- Yes ALL- Including YOU!


GOD Bless You



As promised, my version…

In my first year of high school (Gray’s International College, Kaduna), I was quite popular; everyone knew who I was; teachers, students and workers inclusive. It wasn’t because I was a talkative, or because I was smart or anything. It was because my brother was a senior in school and of course because of my parents… at first it was really nice being the most popular freshman and all the girls wanting to be my school mother or “famzing” me to get closer to my big brother, but along the line, ordinary harmless popularity turned into expectations on  their path… and these expectations became a burden on me. People wanted me to be exactly like my brother, they wanted me to act and react like him. And although we were born and brought up in the same home, we were and still are far from similar.


Subsequently, in order not to lose my “newly found fame”, I actually tried adjusting into their pattern for me. You don’t want to imagine how many times I heard “why can’t you be like Dan?” making me try even more to be like my brother to the extent I started forgetting who I was… losing myself to become who they wanted me to be. Trying so hard to be accepted that I began to live a life of lies.


The problem with people these days is we try so hard to gain the approval of humans instead of being comfortable in our skin. Whatever gift you have or however you look (physically) was made to fit into God’s plan. There are things I can do that my brother can’t even dream of attempting and vice versa; but I’ve learnt to embrace who I am and shun what other people think. The only opinion that matters is Gods because I was made BY HIM, FOR HIM!


I’ll like to urge you today, accommodate your flaws. Work on them, BECOME A BETTER YOU, get in touch with the inner you and build yourself to what God wants you to be! There’s something in you that you won’t see until you ACCEPT YOU FOR YOU! Don’t look enviously at your neighbor’s gifts. We were all called for different purposes to fit into His perfect plan. You’ve gotta learn to LOVE YOURSELF!

Remain blessed.




ImageWe were in a group together and she used to be so nice and friendly… she used to come to my room so we could work together and sometimes even share personal stories and secrets. Before this group work was assigned to us, we didn’t like each other and it was obvious. We would pass each other and not even say a word! Then we started working together, we realised we were very alike and wanted the same things in life. It was easy to talk to her about stuff because she understood me. I could even say we were friends! I’m sure you’re wondering why I keep speaking in past tense…. That’s because it’s in the past now.


Under Yola’s hot sun, I was late for class and I spotted…. (Lets just call her Mary) Mary from where I stood. I had the hugest grin on my face when I saw her; I practically lit up! I was so happy to see her because we didn’t talk over the break. I just assumed she wasn’t reading her mails or getting my text messages. But today, for the first time in the New Year I had seen my Mary. She walked towards me and her facial expression didn’t seem inviting… I just guessed she had a bad day or the sun was frustrating her or something! I kept making excuses for her in my head. She came closer and closer and my huge grin became even wider. I called out her name and was moving in for a hug when I realized she wasn’t doing the same. So I carefully comported myself and looked at her as she walked past me into her dorm…. You can imagine how pained I was! I couldn’t believe my eyes! It was unbelievable!!! I was beyond flabbergasted! I just swallowed my shame and went on to class. Luckily, very few people were there! Praise God for that!! 🙂


Obviously, I could not concentrate in class… I sat there wondering if I’d done anything wrong to offend her or maybe I didn’t text enough or call enough during the break. When I confronted her she could not give me a reason. How was I to know what went wrong and possibly apologize for it or at least iron it out? She was mean to me for no reason and she couldn’t even justify it with an explanation!


I know you’re curious as to why I’m giving so much personal gist! Here’s my point! There’s only one person that is forever your friend. One person that loves you more than any other person! One person who knows all your flaws and accepts you just the way you are! ONE PERSON THAT LOVES YOU DESPITE YOU! No, it’s not your mother, neither is it your father, your spouse, you twin sister or any other sibling! It is God! The one person that never changes towards you even when you do wrong by him. Forever merciful and forever faithful father. He can be whatever you want him to be whenever you want!


That day I learned something I had known for a long time and I believe it was a reminder… PEOPLE CHANGE! Although Mary and I still talk a little, we haven’t gotten to the place we used to be. I’m not sure I trust her anymore and I’m not setting myself up for another “heart break”. People change their minds all the time! Today they love you and tomorrow they can’t stand you. Your husband is faithful today and tomorrow he’s sleeping around. You can never really trust humans, you trust the God in them. I came to the conclusion the only permanent friend I have is Jesus and I know He’s here to stay! This is just a little Valentine reminder to everyone! JESUS LOVES YOU! And even when everything around you changes, the unchanging changer remains the same!