DO I REALLY HAVE ISSUES?

I had a truly horrific day. The highlight of my day was lunch…. In school! Yeah, It was that bad! Anyway! I woke up pretty early for church, had a bath while blasting my music and feeling super jolly in my “purrrty dress”! I had no idea at the end of the day I’d feel so terrible! It was first Sunday back at school and church was awesome! After service I got back to dorm, changed to casual clothes and headed to the cafeteria for lunch :D. I had just seen some of my friends for the first time since resumption so we exchanged pleasantries, talked a little and went our separate ways. After lunch I headed back to dorm to sleep. Obviously this half of my day was good, I haven’t gotten to the upsetting part yet.

 

I had a minor issue with a friend that caused a huge pain in my heart… (It’s too personal to share) but I felt really bad! As if that wasn’t bad enough, my phone kept hooking and saying “sim card rejected” and if you know me at all, you’ll know I’m addicted to my phone (not proud). All day I tried downloading an e-book for one of my courses and it was taking so long then at 99% it would stop and say “insufficient network coverage”… at 99% percent oh! *Sigh* At this point you can imagine my frustration! I just wanted to cry and go home to my mummy!

 

I lay down on my bed, almost crying. I know these issues are tiny! If they had happened at different times, I probably wouldn’t have felt the impact but they all happened at once! It seemed like everything else would soon go wrong. At this point anything anyone said wasn’t funny. I kept restarting my phone, trying to calm my friend down, restarting the download all to no avail. So I lay down, took many deep breaths and started to think. There are people who had a worse day than me, people who live under bridges and have to wake up early to sell stuff on the street and suffer everyday of their life! Girls that are being raped and are carrying a bastard in them or lost their fathers… people who do not have enough money to go to school or even pay for a meal! There are people who have a lot less than I do and they still survive without making a fuss about it! So why was I acting spoilt instead of being grateful for what I have? At least I’m being educated so what if the Wi-Fi is bad? At least I have a phone some people can’t afford nokia 3310! At least I have friends to fight with; fights will just make us stronger!

Your life may not be perfect but its definitely better than someone else’, instead of fussing try to help someone, build someone, encourage someone!!! Where you are isn’t where you want to be but it cannot be where you used to be. Spend everyday on earth like it’s your last continually thanking God for his faithfulness because indeed he has been faithful! 

FREDA ADDO

twitter @el_freedah

LIVING ABOVE HATE

Hi again! 

First of all, I’ll like to say a huge thank you to all who helped broadcast and share the first post, those who left comments and of course, those who read! God bless you very plenty!!!

 

 I had a conversation with a friend recently that sort of inspired this post… we were talking about friends and family and how it is such an ordeal to deal with them sometimes. So I decided to share what I learnt from it…

 

 More often than not, people will hurt you, people will be self-centered and their desires will be placed ahead of yours, even at the expense of your feelings. It’s a sad reality of life, one we have all experienced and have been guilty of. While you’d expect that we all accept this as norm and therefore shield ourselves, we still find ourselves being terribly hurt. This is because there are people you expect a lot from, people you expect to know better. Logical reasoning proves that out of ten times you are hurt, at least eight will be a “close friend” or “family”. Mostly because, there is a certain degree of close relationship required to cause emotional pain. You see, close relationship breeds trust, which when broken produces pain.

 

 Dealing with this can be really hard, this is because these are the people you expect to “have your back” and be there for you when you’re hurt! This is a complex situation of being hurt by the ones you thought would bare your hurt…truly complex situation. Who do you talk to at a time like this? Who can you even trust? If your close friend can do this, who’s left in the world? Who do you turn to when a good friend accuses you of stealing from her, or your mother just doesn’t seem to understand you, or you have a cheating spouse, or perhaps your father loves your siblings better than you? And of course you cannot choose to be a loner! So where do you find solace at a time like this?

 

Through the hurt and the pain, the issue on if to forgive or not arises…  you begin to consider if you should just let it go or continue in your pain. Well, I know it will be hard but I’ll advice you to FORGIVE! I also struggle with forgiving (I’m only human!), especially when the person in question has hurt me so many times in the past! But think of it this way, if you truly are friends, there must be something that instigated the relationship in the first place, are you really ready to lose that thing? Is the person not of more value to you than the issue? If you answer any of these questions negatively, then it just means that friendship wasn’t meant to be.

 

Sometimes when someone upsets you, it is harder but more profitable to be the bigger person and APOLOGIZE! I can imagine you disagree with me right now but when you consider it, some relationships are not worth losing over pride. I know of people who have unstable relationships with their parents because of a minor disagreement and a huge block of pride in their hearts; and I can’t imagine how they survive! Pride comes in the middle of a beautiful thing and turns it ugly!

“SWALLOW YOUR PRIDE OCCASSIONALLY,

IT’S NOT FATTENING.” – FRANK TYGER

Even the Bible talks against pride- “PRIDE COMES BEFORE A FALL”. I don’t believe people deserve the treatment you give them but you treat them good for yourself, for personal satisfaction, just so you know you did the right thing! The way I see it, I love my family and friends and they have been with me through tough times, whatever it is that caused the disagreement is not worth it plus I’m too lazy to hate anyway! (lol).

 

So instead of carrying a block of anger and disappointment in your heart, forgive someone today, call up that friend and apologize! Think of the good times you had and try to patch things up! Life is truly simple, but we complicate it for ourselves with hatred, anger or pain. I know you may not agree with all I’ve said about pride, forgiveness and apologizing but that’s just my sole opinion!

 

Cheers! FREDA ADDO

 @el_freedah

THE JESUS COMMANDMENTS

The Ten Commandments continued when the commander came to the earth to show and teach us Gods heart. In the Old Testament, God gave Moses instructions or commandments concerning character requirements. In the new Testament or the Gospels, He came to tell us more himself. Remember that the things that Jesus said in Mathew, mark, Luke and John are as much Gods commandments as the Ten commandment, especially when you consider that the Great EMMANUEL spoke them himself.          

 

Here is one of such scriptures :

            MATHEW 5:44(AMPLIFIED)

            BUT I TELL YOU, LOVE YOUR ENEMIES

            AND PRAY FOR THOSE WHO

            PERSECUTE YOU

 

            MATTHEW 5:44(KJV)

            BUT I SAY UNTO YOU, LOVE YOUR ENEMIES,  

           BLESS THEM THAT CURSE YOU,

           DO GOOD TO THEM THAT HATE YOU,

          AND PRAY FOR THEM WHICH DESPITEFULLY USE YOU,

          AND PERSECUTE YOU  

 

Wow !  DO GOOD TO THEM THAT HATE YOU….

 

I hope you are Christian enough to obey that scripture? Well nobody said serving God is easy, but if you really love and respect Jesus, you will trust him to strengthen you to do the right thing at any cost!

 BISHOP FRED ADDO

THE GENESIS

Sigh! Hello!

I’m really undecided about this because I have never really been much of a “blog person” or “blogger”; as a matter of fact, many blogs I have read provided me with humor as I felt they tried too hard! So it is quite ironic that I’m doing this. However, I’ve always liked to put my thoughts down maybe not with pen and paper since this is the 21st century but using social media. Recently, I’ve had it in my heart to write about my experiences because in 2012 I lost a lot of people dear to me. And it got me thinking; life is short and if I die today, I have nothing out of the ordinary to be remembered for. So with the hope of helping someone through a tough time or simply inspiring someone, I decided to start a blog. I have a few bloggers that have further inspired me to take this up as a hobby, the likes of Prince Huntly Anabs- “the journey begins”, a personal mentor of mine- Kemi Awoyemi- “thresh house” and Simon Samuel- “holy spirit inspired”.

Okay! So…. Now that you all know how I feel about blogging, here are some very subtle details about me just for formality sake! My name is Freda Farida Addo, I come from a Christian home, and my parents are preachers so expect a lot of Godly posts (lol)! I am really young, I come from a family of 3 kids, my elder brother, myself and my baby brother and I’m very simple or at least I’d like you to think I am… I am a sucker for good music, I believe solely in Jesus Christ and… that’s pretty much it!

I won’t bore you with details and doctrines; my posts will be as short as possible but I really hope you are blessed or can relate with something on my blog! Have fun! Explore! And please let me know what you think!!! Before I leave, here’s a parting gift, something for you to think on till my next post.

“The fact that Jesus died on the cross doesn’t mean

He’s still in the tomb! Things in your life may not

look good now but they will surely turn for the better!”

GOD BLESS YOU and welcome to “MY SOLE OPINION!”

twitter – @el_freedah